You know we are passionate about parents as primary catechists of their children, but what role do grandparents play in the faith formation of their grandchildren?
This question wades into more delicate waters, but since we have many grandparents in our community, let's dive in together.
What does the Church say about the role of grandparents?
The important role elders play in their communities is emphasized throughout the entire Bible. What we would call "grandparents" are seen as sources of wisdom, patience, encouragement, and stability.
Grandparents are meant to be examples in their families of a faithful life that produces the fruits of the Holy Spirit.
Particularly, our last 4 pontiffs have placed special emphasis on the irreplaceable of role grandparents (and all others considered "elders") in their families and in society as a whole.
I don't believe this emphasis is the result of new ideas; on the contrary, I believe up until recent decades, it has simply been a given. Previous generations understood that of course grandparents should play an active role in the lives of their grandchildren. Of course they are honored. Of course they are cared for. Of course they are referred to. Of course they are needed. Of course their witness to the Lord Jesus carries weight.
These realities are no longer a given (as many of you have and are experiencing).
How grandparents can support faith formation
*With this I not seek to address the various psychological considerations of family systems and any resulting boundaries set by any party. This is why the waters are delicate. So the first consideration is to live in the context of what boundaries exist. God is not limited as to be unable to work within those.*
But there are a few (fairly) universal ways grandparents can support the faith formation of their grandchildren no matter what that looks like in their own homes:
1️⃣ Bear the fruits of the Holy Spirit | As mentioned above, your witness remains paramount in the life of your family! When you remain in the Heart of Jesus and allow His Holy Spirit overflow into your life and interactions with your family, that will influence the grandchildren of your children (even your children that are most hostile toward the Faith).
2️⃣ Talk with them about your life with Christ | Tell them age-appropriate stories from your own life and walk with God! Have you experienced miracles? What was your First Communion day like? What's your favorite way to pray? Kids LOVE learning this about you!
3️⃣ Live the liturgical year with them | We are blessed to live in a time with so many incredible ideas for celebrating feast days and holy days in our Church's calendar. And your kids? They might be too exhausted from having and raising the grandbabies to carry these out. This means that you can be a source for all the liturgical living fun! Lean into your natural strengths and interests (cooking? baking? crafting? activities?) and you'll make lasting memories with your grandchildren that are rooted in the Catholic Faith.
4️⃣ Supply resources | If you discover some fantastic catechetical resources, pass them along! Especially if it makes the task easier on your child/in-law. Resources like our Paintings + Prayers Cards, A Lamp & a Light Journal, the Mass unit study, or the Beatitudes unit study are a perfect fit for this!
Grandparents' examples can reverberate through generations. Your role looks different now, but you are still important in the faith formation of your grandchildren.
Thank you, thank you for your faithfulness, your goodness, and your selflessness!
Praise God for grandparents!
